At times like this, I wish Cancun had a Miss Manners column.
What do I do when someone “self invites” themselves to my wedding?
The other night, I ran into an acquaintance from college. We had a conversation that went something like this:
Pedro: So, when are you getting married?
Me: This July.
Pedro: Oh, great! Could you tell me exactly what day, so I can ask for time off of work?
Me: (panicking) July 22. But it’s a Thursday, so it may be difficult for you to go since it’s not on the weekend.
Pedro: Don’t worry! If I ask in advance, I can get the time off.
Me: Ok! Sounds great!
What have I done? I know, I’ve already screwed this up.
I have tons of friends that I would love to invite to the wedding, and I’m sure at least a few of them already assume they’re invited. My problem is, my fiance’s parents both come from families of 8 kids… so you can imagine the massive amounts of cousins, aunts, uncles, etc on our list, in addition to close friends and family friends.
My brilliant plan for the moment is to hope I don’t run into him and hope he forgets.
Anyone have any better ideas? How does one handle these situations?